Young and old gays

You're not alone in your desire for an age gap relationship, nor in facing the challenges that come with seeking love in a world that may try to dim your light.

When we began our journey together, we found a lack of genuine advice and support from real age gap couples regarding the ups and downs of this type of dating.

Start one. Let two men in their sixties fall in love. Even danced in gay bars under threat of raids.

And now they grow orchids, write memoirs, and wait patiently for someone to ask them about that night in ’74. You’ll be the one with the love story younger people whisper about in coffee shops, wondering how you made it last.

When that day comes, wouldn’t it be something to say that you once had a friend who taught you how to age with style?

They’re the ones who carry the torch.

So light up your work with characters who’ve been around the block—and still own it.

Your Story Gets Better When You Listen to Theirs

Younger queer writers have every right to tell their own truths—and they do so with brilliance. But friendship? It’s a story about caring for someone not your age—and discovering how life-changing it can be when someone truly sees you.

If you haven’t lately, talk to an older gay person.

It’ll stretch you. Society at large often misinterprets relationships between younger and older individuals, especially when they involve men. In my latest book, Something About Martin, you’ll find an unexpected friendship, a chosen family, and the quiet power of two people from different generations rescuing each other.